While deep down, let’s be honest, we would all be happy with a burger ring on our finger if it meant we got to spend the rest of our lives with our one true love but in reality we all dream of that one ring, the ring we have had saved in our camera rolls for almost ten years.
Now before you go ahead and call materialism, let me explain. It’s not about the money! The ring your love proposes with is one that will be on your hand for the rest of your life and that is a huge investment! It needs to be timeless because, well, you will be wearing it for the rest of your life, it has to be your style and you have to love it. A ring should represent your love for each other and while some are happy to leave it up to the man, sometimes we have to nudge them in the right direction when it comes to choosing a ring we will both love. And here’s how!
Start a Pinterest Board
For the high-tech, socialite woman. Invite him via email to view your Pinterest board. Fill it full of styles you love so he knows just the right one to choose. Think about how overwhelming it must be for a man to choose the right ring for the woman he loves. This will alleviate the stress for him knowing exactly the styles you love and he will have your whole board there to show the jeweller who will be able to create your dream ring!
Go ring shopping together
Happy not to have a surprise? This one is for you. It’s a bit more direct but we see it happening more and more in this day and age. When you walk past jewellery stores, start by casually expressing interest in some of the rings and take it from there. The man will love it because he doesn’t have to worry about choosing the right ring and the woman loves it because they get exactly what they want. It is a win, win situation.
Enlist the help of your bestie
Let’s face it, our best friends know our dream ring as well as we do. This is for the women who don’t want to go the direct route by telling him the ring you want but you still want some input to make sure he gets it right. Once you’ve had the talk with your man and you know things are serious and a proposal is on the horizon, get your friend to drop hints to your man. Make sure they are aware of the styles you love and the styles you don’t. He will welcome the help to know if he is on the right track.
Leave clues around the house
If you want to be really subtle, this one is for you. Use magazines, laptops, tablets and mobile phones to your advantage and leave browsers and pages open with rings you adore. When he sees you’re looking at rings, he will start snooping in no time.
Design it together
This is for the modern couple, you do everything together and this one is my favourite because it makes the experience even more personal. Suggesting designing your rings together is a less direct approach that will make your relationship and your engagement even more special. A man will more than likely still want to keep the proposal a surprise but more often than not will be open to designing a ring together. Having equal input on what your dream ring will look like will be such a special bonding opportunity for your relationship.
Have you hinted at getting your dream ring? How did you do it? Will you use any of these tips?
Let us know!
Tahana is the founder of Tahanalee.com, where she writes about motherhood, life, fitness and health.